5 tips against stress with homework

1. the responsibility lies with the child

Conflicts in learning often arise when parents think they have to dictate everything. However, the responsibility for completing homework completely and correctly lies primarily with the child. Parents can be there to offer their help. This includes finding out first: What can the child do on their own? Where does he need my support?

2. establish clear rules

Agree with your son or daughter: When, where and how do you do what? Take the child's needs into account - but also those of the parents («I'm free from 4 to 7 pm, if you need help, you can call me. Later you have to do it yourself»). Then remind the child at most once («If you want me to help you, you have to do your chores now»). There is a risk that the child will not have completed their homework the next day. During such «practice phases», it is valuable to talk to teachers.

3 What to do in the event of a dispute?

Let the child finish talking, but don't get bogged down in discussions, otherwise a power struggle will ensue. Is the child not listening, is angry or shouting? Mum or dad leave the room, make a coffee and say: «When you're ready, get in touch and I'll help you!» Later, in a quiet moment, talk about it again with the child («Things didn't go well at lunchtime today. How could we make it go better tomorrow?») and let them participate in the search for a solution. This gives them the feeling: I am competent, I can control the situation.

4. motivate positive experiences

Ensure that the child takes regular breaks and experiences: «I can do this!» Show understanding when your child is frustrated and respond to them. Show appreciation and recognition: Give positive feedback for small successes, praise progress («Today you did 15 minutes of homework on your own, yesterday it was only five!»). Break negative patterns: If the child doesn't join in, just grumbles - ignore it! If they are attentive - give positive feedback immediately! At the same time, adjust parental expectations to the child.

5. parents as role models

Children learn by copying. That's why parents can have a big impact as positive role models - even when it comes to completing unpleasant tasks. Think out loud in front of the child: «I don't feel like answering all these emails. But I'm going to set my alarm clock for 15 minutes and answer as many as I can. Then I'll reward myself with a break.» Children are more receptive to such hints in passing than specific «Why don't you try this too» tips.