«Self-confidence also has to do with overcoming limits»

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Miriam, 42, and her husband Samuel, 46, have two children, 7 and 9, and it is important to them that their children can have confidence in themselves. They should find this strength within themselves - and in faith.

"It is very important to us that our children develop healthy self-confidence. We encourage this by giving them as many experiences as possible and letting them do things that other parents might not allow or consider dangerous, such as cycling home alone from football training in the evening or being home alone for an hour. We are convinced that anything is possible. We encourage our children to test their own limits or leave their comfort zone if, for example, they doubt whether they can achieve a goal. If we are convinced that they can achieve it, we encourage them.

«We encourage our children to realise ideas, however adventurous they may be.»

We want them to find out how great their inner strength is. If they have ideas that they want to realise, we encourage them to pursue them, however adventurous they may be. And we don't simply remove obstacles from their path, but show them how they can overcome them. And of course we often tell and show them that we love and accept them for who they are, that they can always come to us if something is bothering them and, of course, if they are in need. We want to be a safe harbour for them. Our faith is also an important anchor point. It gives us stability and self-confidence. We also try to convey this to our children. Jesus gives everyone support, courage and confidence. And even when things go wrong, he catches us. Feeling this security can be very supportive."

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This article is part of the online dossier "The strong child". Courageous, communicative, strong: that's probably what every parent wants their child to be. But what helps and what hinders the development of this self-confidence? Read more on this topic.

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