«My daughter looks cheap!»
Hmm. Who bought your daughter the high heels and the mini skirt? Does she get that much pocket money? Or did the outfit in the dressing room look less cheap in her eyes? Parents have a say in the clothes, at least as long as they are paying for them. But don't forget: teenagers need the freedom to try things out, to play with their femininity. This sometimes looks cheap to every generation of parents.
Tell your daughter what you think of her outfits. Buy her jeans, T-shirt, jumper, jacket, good shoes and sportswear. In future, do something together every other Saturday. As a family, with or without her friends. Offer a new contrast programme to the cheap look!
You could give her a pair of Louboutins, a mini skirt from Prada and a subtle lipstick from Dior - and your daughter will look much, much more expensive. But that's probably not the opposite of what they mean by «cheap». If you tell your daughter that she looks like 13-year-old Jodie Foster in «Taxi Driver» in her outfit, she will probably just look at you blankly. Firstly, because she doesn't know who Jodie Foster is and what that has to do with driving a taxi; secondly, because such pubescent hypersexualisation only works as long as the pubescent doesn't know what they are doing. So save yourself the fundamental debates and at best make a useful suggestion for a slightly less cheap styling.