Media rules for siblings

What if the younger child simply sits down while the older one watches TV? Finding a good way of dealing with media in a multi-child family takes time, perseverance - and consensus. A guide.

Watching half an hour of TV a day, playing on the tablet under supervision, exploring the internet with mum or dad - with the first child, media education almost seems like child's play. At least compared to the second and third child. It happens quickly: While your 4-year-old daughter is watching «Guetnachtgschichtli» on TV, her 2-year-old brother is already sitting next to her.

Young siblings get to know digital media earlier. This is neither good nor bad at first. You don't have to treat siblings the same - levelling the playing field doesn't do any child justice. Every child needs an individualised media education that meets their needs and age. But what does this mean for everyday life?

Media education takes time

Do not compare your children with each other, but observe each child individually. Derive arguments from this to explain why something is allowed or not. And consistently stand by your decision.
Also gain an overview: Which films, programmes or games are currently popular with children or are suitable for them? Ask your children, other parents, experts and do some research on the internet. This will also enable you to better justify why something is permitted in your family - or not.
The important thing is: don't just let media use happen. Make a conscious decision and discuss with your children what they are allowed to use.

Find your rules - together and democratically

Media education takes time. Especially when different rules apply to siblings. Don't worry too much if it doesn't always work out. If your younger child sits in front of the screen for a little longer than usual, it's no big deal.
It becomes problematic when the little ones see something that frightens or disturbs them. This is because a child is more likely to cope with excessive time demands than inappropriate content. When watching films or playing games together, take your cue from the younger child. And pay attention to the age restriction of programmes, films or apps and explain to your children that this is for their protection.

There are hardly any generally applicable media rules for families. Every family is different - in terms of the age and level of development of the children, digital equipment and family situation. You need rules to suit your situation.
The following questions may help you find them:

Wo steht mein Kind aktuell?
Was braucht es wirklich?
Wo stehe ich?
Was kann ich bieten?
Bin ich ein Vorbild?
Welchen Schutz braucht mein Kind beim Nutzen von Medien?
Wie kann ich mein Kind fördern?

Or hold a family council on how to deal with digital media on a regular basis, about once a month. All family members can and should take part. Discuss your burning media issues, make joint decisions and record them.

It's important to remember that every vote counts equally; the chair takes it in turns to ensure that every family member can contribute a topic.
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