Nicole Althaus: Haben wir Menschen nicht alle die Tendenz, Dinge persönlich zu nehmen, die uns nicht in den Kram passen? Vielleicht kommen wir ja noch einmal davon! Ihre Tochter versucht sich mit ihrem Verhalten vor Auf­ gaben und «Ämtli» zudrücken. Fallen Sie nicht darauf herein! Lassen Sie sich nicht provozieren und sagen Sie ruhig, aber bestimmt, was die Tochter zu tun hat.
Nicole Althaus
Don't we humans all have a tendency to take things personally that don't suit us? Maybe we'll get away with it again! Your daughter is trying to avoid tasks and «offices» with her behaviour. Don't fall for it! Don't let yourself be provoked and tell your daughter calmly but firmly what she has to do.
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Tonia von Gunten
Always give fewer instructions and let your daughter decide more for herself. We parents have a habit of constantly questioning our children and giving orders: «How was school? Have you got any homework? Set the table! Hang up your jacket!» If you can't do it without instructions, consider the following: Give your daughter enough time. Be clear and personal: «You're playing, but we can eat in ten minutes. I want you to set the table today. Okay?»
Peter Schneider: Versuchen Sie, vermeidbare «Kritik» (also das, was Ihre Tochter als unwichtige Kritik empfindet) herunterzufahren, und überlegen Sie, wo Sie ihr stattdessen etwas Nettes sagen können. Das ist der nerven­ schonende Teil meiner Antwort. Der andere Teil lautet: Es hilft nichts, da müssen Sie und Ihre Tochter durch. Das geht am einfachsten, wenn Sie bei den wirklich wichtigen Aufgaben (das sind möglicherweise weniger, als Sie im Moment denken) die besagte «Kritik» als möglichst simples Kommando durchgeben und sich von den Aggressionen nicht zu sehr beeindrucken lassen.
Peter Schneider
Try to cut down on avoidable «criticism» (i.e. what your daughter perceives as unimportant criticism) and think about where you can say something nice to her instead. That's the easy on the nerves part of my answer. The other part is: It doesn't help, you and your daughter have to get through this. The easiest way to do this is to give the aforementioned «criticism» as a simple command for the really important tasks (which may be fewer than you think at the moment) and not be too impressed by the aggression.