«Help, do I have to reward my daughter for good grades?»

Time and again I see parents rewarding their children with money for good grades - I have never heard a teacher make such a recommendation. It would also make no sense: if you pay pupils for good grades, you run the risk that the children will only work hard for the rewards and lose interest and enthusiasm for learning. This approach is also depressing for underachieving children because they often do not achieve good grades despite their best efforts - and are therefore penalised twice over.

Honestly? I think it's a rubbish idea. Money for good grades - that's not only the wrong currency, it's also the wrong incentive. Children should be rewarded for their effort, not for the result. A bad maths student will not get better grades if money is an incentive. But you can motivate a poor maths student to practise regularly if they see that maths - like almost everything in life - can be learned. Set a goal together with your daughter, for example: We'll manage to get you to make fewer careless mistakes, and reward her when the goal is achieved. For example, with an afternoon together that she can organise herself. Or a dessert that is only very rarely served.

I take an equally critical view. Not because I am fundamentally against this form of reward, but because I find it thoughtless how thoughtlessly people can disregard other people's financial situation. What I do find stupid, however, are sophisticated reward systems. Instead of this manager bonus nonsense, why not just watch a film together in the evening before going to bed if you've had a good time together. Just like that, without calculation.

