Fomo, Yolo, Momo? Jomo!
Yolo and Fomo are our children's constant companions - they are eloquent signs that they can make their lives online more colourful and interesting than they actually are. Yolo is an acronym for «You only live once». Online, Yolo is the amusing self-promoter, while Fomo is the procrastinating nerd who wants to do everything right when it comes to leisure time. Because Fomo stands for «Fear of missing out», the fear of missing something.
How can parents help their children with this? Forbidding contact with friends who celebrate the coolest life is certainly wrong. Not knowing what is happening is even worse - and of course there is already an abbreviation for this: Momo, «Mystery of missing out». Momo is the worry of missing out on something because the others are no longer sharing anything.
A better idea is to demonstratively indulge in Jomo, the «joy of missing out». This is consciously missing out. Simply enjoying staying out of it. And if you stay online, you can also post about how relaxed your life is.
Here are a few more tips on how to stay out of it. Incidentally, these also apply to adults. Because the phenomena described sometimes affect parents too. You can then share your experiences with your family - whether online or offline.
1. my time beats analogue
You've probably experienced this too: you just want to quickly check the time, but get stuck on the messages that light up on the display. The solution is simple: wear a wristwatch!
2. my thoughts are valuable
While you are waiting, pursue your own thoughts instead of being inspired by the news and experiences of others. Because looking into the void promotes creativity and ideas for life.
3. as few notifications as possible
Do you need all the news to appear immediately on your lock screen? Go through your apps and online profiles regularly and think honestly: What do you need to be constantly informed about?
4. more than one handle away
Don't always carry your mobile phone on you. Put it in a handbag, rucksack, drawer or somewhere else so that you don't reach for it the first time it buzzes or lights up.
5 I decide when to answer
Manage the expectations of others. Don't always reply by return of post. What message needs to be answered or commented on within minutes? Set yourself fixed times: Four to five times a day is enough for all important conversations.
6. mute yourself!
Out of earshot, out of mind. Why not switch your smartphone to silent - no ringing, no buzzing, nothing. That way you won't be distracted by every notification, no matter how unimportant.
On Medienstark you will find tips and interactive learning modules for the competent use of digital media in everyday family life.
